The depths of complex trauma never disappear, it fades but easily recalled in certain moments. ~Tonya McKenzie
It’s physically challenging and emotionally draining to keep swimming through the waves with this weight pulling you down, limiting your strides. ~Tonya McKenzie
It is not the kind of racism that will lock a door when they see you trying to come in. It is the kind of racism that questions your motives for walking in the door. ~Tonya McKenzie
When they did not think that my stories were newsworthy, I would go out and create a story that the would cover, all in an effort to gain support from the community, local politicians and business owners. ~Tonya McKenzie
Never having the opportunity to have important conversations or heal old wounds makes grieving harder. Take advantage of the time that you have to ask the hard questions and have the important conversations. ~Tonya McKenzie
Kids that experience things like domestic violence, gun violence, and child abuse become teenagers and young adults with PTSD symptoms. Only about one-quarter of African Americans seek mental health care, compared to 40% of whites. ~Tonya McKenzie
Don’t be reactive, be reflective. — Don’t always have a knee-jerk reaction to circumstances or breaking news. Stop, breath, and think about the situation, all options and possibilities. This keeps you from having to walk back any initial statements or actions while also preserving your adrenal glands. Take the time to let a situation play out for a bit while you take it in, process it and make a measured response. Don’t rush to make a mistake. Take your time and get it right. ~Tonya McKenzie
Kids are pretty basic. When you’re nice to them and you give them attention and buy them things, they love you. They want you around. They want to be around you. Predators know that. So, they do all of the things that a child wants to get their loyalty. They then proceed to satisfy their own physical or emotional needs.
Trump never even addresses our education system or gun violence in schools during his State of the Union because he knows that “Ditzy DeVos” is doing our youth no favors.
When trauma happens, you do not have to deal with it by yourself. Trying to get past it, sort out your feelings and establish a path forward can be complex. ~TMcKenzie